You did not stop and really listen to understand what Dr. Laura was saying. She is just reminding women to be nice to their husbands. I think you took her words out of context. You and Dr. Laura are on the same side of developing a good character, so this commentary confused me.

My dad is unfaithful, and it has been very hard for me to deal with this. It has been very hard for my whole family. When I heard what Dr. Laura thought, it made me frustrated to think that so many women believe they need to be on their best behavior and satisfy their husband in order for their husband not to cheat. I completely disagreed with her. Just because the woman won't "satisfy" her husband doesn't mean he will stay by her side and faithful. And when i heard your commentary this morning, it made me happy to hear that I wasn't the only one who thought this. Thank you. :)

I believe men who cheat on their wives make a conscious decision in doing so. They know exactly what they are doing when they are doing it. It can't be blamed on anyone, especially not on the wives. What Dr. Laura is saying is ridiculous. She might feel differently if she personally experienced her husband cheating on her -- I'm sure she wouldn't blame it on herself. I don't think the wives are responsible for the husbands irresponsible and selfish behavior. All marriages have issues, and when a man cheats -- it is in no way the woman's fault.

Face facts...The woman is in no way to blame. If the husband feels neglected and does not feel he can talk to his wife about it, then he should get a divorce, not cheat. It's just what Mr.Josephson said "No explanation beyond moral weakness is necessary."

You know, one way to check one's logic is to apply it another way--for instance would Dr. Laura say that women who cheat are repairing the damage and feeding what's starved by their marriage? For that matter, is she implying that all who cheat on their marriage vows do so because their needs aren't being met by their spouse?

I think that infidelity, broken vows, lies and lust are on a par with stealing, embezzling, and reckless endangerment of others, and we don't excuse adults committing those actions by blaming their spouse.

Dr. Laura needs to give her head a shake!! We all have the capacity to make our own decisions. I strongly believe that anyone cheating on their spouse does so because of purely selfish reasons. Mr Spitzer was not thinking
about his wife or his two beautiful daughters.

Once we are old enough to make our own choices, we make our own choices! No one, other than ourselves, is responsible for our behavior. Clearly, Mr. Spitzer made the choice to cheat on his wife. SHE had absolutley no responsibility for HIS behavior. If he wasn't happy in his marriage, he could have chosen to take the moral high ground and move on. HE CHOSE not to.
Shame on you, Laura Schlessinger.

I do agree that there is no excuse for cheating, however, I think Michael has sidestepped an important issue. It takes two to make a marriage work, and that includes all aspects of marriage. I know many men (including myself) who find themselves in sexless marriages, either through deliberate withholding of sex or (as in my case) inability for the woman to engage in sexual activity due to illness. So I ask Michael, what am I supposed to do? Morally, I can't leave a sick wife and subject our children to divorce just because we can no longer have sex. Neither can cheating ever be justified. Yet I often find myself incredibly frustrated and despondent at the realization I will likely forgo sex for the rest of my life. Being that I'm under 40, that could easily be the second half of my life.

I know the answer is to recognize I said "for better or for worse" and learn to live without sex. I'd settle for a little less righteousness from those who haven't walked a mile in my shoes.

I am appalled that anyone would listen to what Dr. Laura has to say after the way she treated her own mother! Dr. Laura needs to clean up her own back yard first. As for the unfaithful men, well read the Bible, it will tell you everything! You could be the sweetest, cleanest, kindest, prettiest woman in the world and a man will still cheat on you with someone else! They commit lust with their big damn eyes! Especially a man who is immature and never satisfied, what we call a maniac!!! They are out there, don't act like they aren't. And many men do lack CHARACTER and SELF RESPECT. How sad that so many women have to put up with these stupid little boys stuck in a grown up man's body. I have always been extremely nice and caring to my spouse and I take good care of the house, yard and myself. I finally realized that he honestly has no GRATITUDE and APPRECIATION!

I feel compassion for Mrs. Spitzer and the way she had to stand by her husband's side! What if it was the other way around?

I agree with JJ. I think you and Dr. Laura are on the same side of developing character and I was surprised and confused by this commentary. It was definitely taken out of context. When Dr. Laura made those comments, she was answering a question as to why men cheat in general. She was not answering a question related to the governor. The other panelists were talking about Spitzer and they were all later asked about him directly. When Dr. Laura was asked specifically about the governor, she said, “When a person is in a high position of power, especially a man, there is a sense of entitlement and a sense of being…above the law because of the importance of what they do….” She was not blaming his wife.

Dr. Laura did say that her logic did not apply to self-centered jerks (just to ordinary men who are ignored or mistreated). I think this is a statement that almost everyone missed. Yes it would be crazy to say that whenever a man cheats, it is his wife's fault. I think the point she was trying to make was something she often says: the responsibility of the cheating lies on the cheater, but the responsibility of the spouse for neglect or mistreatment - IF THERE IS ANY - lies on the spouse.

No matter how thin, every pancake has two sides. While contributions to marital happiness and/or disharmony are shared, each individual is ultimately responsible for their choices to life's dilemmas. No one is predestined to have an affair in response to unfulfilled needs. I know many fine, honorable people who have set aside their excuses and blame and have found other ways to deal with frustration and temptation. These individuals are characterized by their ability to realize how selfish acts inflict unnecessary pain upon people who love them the most, namely their spouse and family. To quote you, "How we treat others is not simply about them. It is about us. It defines who we are." Letting go of justification in favor of compassion is ultimately about our ability to truly love.

I have listened to Dr. Laura for many years and have felt supported in my morals and values when everyone around me seems to not have any. I was married for 28 years with four children when I found out that my husband had a secret life with his office manager for 11 years! Our intact family is ruined, I have a broken heart, and I no longer have any relationship with his whole family and many so called "friends" who say he didn't do anything to them. I have lost the financial security that I sacrificed and worked so hard for, and my children have suffered terribly. While my marriage had a few challenges along the way, I loved my husband and was always good to him. If he had needs that were not being met, he needed to come to me, the person who he made vows to, committed his life to and had children with. Michael Josephson said it best in his last sentence, "No explanation beyond moral weakness is necessary." A perfectly good man would not cheat! I hope Dr. Laura reads his article.

Goodness, in one week you refer to the same lady, Dr. Laura. In the other one, it seems you are endorsing her - a little bit confusing.

Anyway, on this one, I agree with you entirely (I agree with you in the other one too, but not because of the reference to Dr. Laura.)

To imply that the inadequacies of one partner can be blamed on the other is preposterous, and is as you say an absolute insult to the innocent party.

However, it is a very human trait to externalise and blame others for one's own wrong-doing. Adam blamed Eve, and Eve blamed the snake. God didn't bother to ask the snake for an explanation, but no doubt given the opportunity the snake too would have shifted the blame. But at the end of the day the old saying "The buck stops with me" is pertinent here.

It is better to accept responsibilty for one's wrong actions than to try to mount a meaningless defence. Dr. Phil said on a recent program, "We know the truth when we hear it." If a lady asks "Do i look fat in this?" and someone says "oh, no!" the lady kind of knows that she does.

Let's not try and explain away or justify wrong behavior. Just call it what it is - wrong.

It takes two people to have a relationship and there may be issues that need to be resolved in one or both people for that relationship to be a healthy one.

It's quite possible that a spouse might not be doing certain things to feed the relationship, but it's still the responsibility of the other one to communicate needs and issues so the marriage can prosper.

Putting all the blame on the non-cheating spouse is irresponsible. That person already has to endure pain and suffering, and telling them that they brought it all upon themselves is not truthful. The spouse who commits the infidelity has failed to uphold his or her part of the relationship in a much bigger way than the one who has been cheated on. If we are to heap any blame on the spouses, more of it needs to go on the one who has cheated.

I was confused by Dr. Laura's remarks. Doesn't she typically preach about personal responsbility? Spouses who cheat have no one to blame but themselves for their actions. No matter what another person does to you--you and you alone are responsible for your actions--end of story! What about those spouses who are "nice" and their spouses are unfaithful, anyway? How is that explained?

A husband (or wife) always has a choice as to whether or not to cheat. Trying to excuse cheating by blaming it on something lacking in the relationship is just another example of the "not-my-fault" syndrome. If there are problems in a relationship, both partners have the responsibility to either sincerely attempt to work through the problems or to end the relationship.

If Dr. Laura said, "Yes, I hold women responsible for tossing out perfectly good men," how can that be taken "out of context"?

Anyone who violates their marital covenant by committing adultery will answer for their own actions. Saying "It's the wife's fault for not treating the husband with love and respect" is the same as saying "The devil made me do it."

Like any other sin, cheating is a choice man makes willingly, and his wife's treatment of him has nothing to do with it. He didn't seek her counsel when he chose to make such a choice, so she needs to be left out of it as far as his reasons for doing so.

It pains me to hear Dr. Laura (a woman) speak of her same gender in the way she has. Where is her moral character? Would the circumstance still prove true if it were her husband hiring women for illicit sex?

wow 2 articles with dr. laura mentioned.
i wikipedia'd her to make sure i was not in error...but to me she was much of what she now pontificates against. of course, we can and do make mistakes and grow...but to me, she still appears hypocritical.
i enjoy your comments very much. i am a better person for having heard you and practicing much of what you have pointed out. it amazes me to hear your topics and realize that, for the most part, it's like breathing...we don't think of it until it's brought to our attention. many thanks.

Shame on Dr. Laura. We are all held accountable for our own behaviors. To blame someone else for our own inequities or for the lack of a strong moral compass is the epitome of irresponsible behavior. We must take ownership of the choices we make for ourselves. Sure, let's prosecute the wife for the husband’s infidelity…. talk about taking a huge step backwards on the evolutionary ladder, Dr Laura. We might as well start burning the witches at the stake again.

I completely disagree with Dr. Laura. If a marriage suffers in intimacy, or in any way, it does not make it justifiable to cheat. Obviously a person who cheats is selfish and heartless to the one they are married to, regardless of the goings on in their relationship. The cheater must feel that since the marriage isn't going the way they want it to go, it's okay to do so. Did they forget the vows they spoke on their wedding day? Cheating is a horrible act, and blame should not be put on the wife/husband who is not fulfilling their every desire. Being nice to your spouse does not ensure that one will remain faithful. I agree completely with Michael Josephson 100%. Thanks for giving us perspective.

It is not just men who cheat in marriages. Sadly today many women also cheat on their husbands. It seems to be a growing trend for both parties of the marriage, one that is leading to the family breakdown.

I am a fan of both you and Dr. Laura Schlessinger. And I know, from listening to her program, that she does NOT excuse men from responsibility when they are unfaithful to their wives. But neither does she excuse wives from their responsibility to love and nurture their husbands -- just as much as husbands should love and nurture their wives.

Dr. Laura believes that a good man, if he is loved and nurtured by his wife, is not tempted to cheat on her. She also recognizes that there are men of low character who cheat on perfectly good wives.

My personal view of Gov. Spitzer's case is that it is similar to former Orange County Sherrif Mike Corona's motivation for allegedly having a mistress and accepting bribes: their high-achieving, hard-driving, win-at-all-costs mentality gave both men a taste for the adrenalin rush of risky behavior. Their cheating had nothing to do with their wives.

As a man who did cheat on his wife, it would be easy to blame my wife, but that is simply not the case. It was my selfish narcissistic desire to satisify my own needs without regards to how much it would hurt so may other people, nor the fact that it was just plain wrong. Dr. Laura, what are you thinking?

Thank you so much for your commentary on Dr. Laura's ridiculous opinion. She has been spouting this opinion for a number of years. When my marriage was falling apart for the same reason, a longtime friend told me that according to Dr. Laura I wasn't being a "good enough" wife and I needed to change. How utterly ridiculous is that??? Where does personal accountability come into play? Thank you for always reminding us that we all have choices we can make and each of us is responsible for those choices.

If you get into an accident on the freeway with a careless driver, you will still suffer the consequences (injury, loss of car, loss of time and money). It does not have to be your fault. Even so, if you drive defensively on the freeway, you can REDUCE the chance of getting involved in an accident with a careless driver. Your behavior will not make an accident impossible, but it can make one less likely.

If a wife is loving towards a husband, she might be able to reduce the likelihood that he will be susceptible to an affair. If he is determined to have an affair (or sex with a prostitute), all the kindness in the world will not prevent it.

I believe men do not cheat on wives, they cheat on themselves. If their character is so low that they would allow a physical act to be the driving force in their life and risk all they supposedly hold dear, they need counseling. Those wives are surely not to blame if any man has no character. These men become victims of their own lack of personal control.

"No explanation beyond moral weakness is necessary."

How glib and implicitly sanctimonious. Such a statement cannot conclude a discussion about infidelity any more than the ocean can be described simply by saying that it is made of salty water.

Spitzer was a man who in 2002 sent subpoenas to 24 pro-life organizations for trying to convince women not to have an abortion.
Creeps exist and it has nothing to do with wives or morality.
The divorce option backfired on a lot of women over 40 or 50. Abortion took away responsibilities from men for their actions.
Creeps thrive in this society and to stand on high moral grounds without realizing that at the base of it all should be the sanctity of life, which also means that we do not have the right to take advantage of another person's body even if she or he is freely exercising a business transaction (legally or not).
If we do not respect children in their womb or the elderly or people in the last stage of their life, how can we tell others that their behavior is wrong? Based on some quotations? or opinions? The right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness is constitutional. If we violate only one of those rights, we take away what really protects us as human beings and as Americans; all else is empty rhetoric.

Check the biography of Laura S. What kind of doctor does she claim to be? Did she find herself in a triangular relationship as the other woman, as reported on the internet?

I speak from experience when I say that no matter how well you treat your spouse or how much you give in every aspect of your marriage, if it is in their nature to cheat, they willIf they have no morals and no respect for themselves or their family, they will cheat. It’s an ego trip. They are secretly testing to see how much they can get away with because they simply don’t care about the consequences of their actions

Sadly, in my case my trust in him, my love and the financial security that I provided, gave him the time and freedom to foster other relationships. Our marriage had its issues over the years, none of which were sex-related, and I made a lot of sacrifices and compromises in order to keep the peace. I was always good to him and I never thought he would do this to me. I later discover that his mother had known all along about his affair and did not intervene, but encouraged it. Obviously good character runs in families. I found myself at 45 financially devastated and friendless. Three years down the track I still have a broken heart and I still feel the shame and the pain of the betrayal, not only by my husband, who I loved and cared for, but also by his mother. He has lost his children and his mother, her grandchildren.

I think some men are unfaithful because they have psychological and self-esteem issues, they cheat and lie simply because they do not have respect for themselves, they do not know what love and moral values are. Cheaters are not mature enough to establish a solid relationship and maintain it for the rest of their lives. Normally, cheaters’ brains are not developed as a normal human being brain is.

I do not quite understand why some persons irresponsibly decide to risk their marriages, destroy their families, ruin their careers, and bring themselves down for nothing. Isn’t it better to be honest and finish a relationship on time without hurting and humiliating a human being, and what is worse, destroying the family’s moral, feelings, and values.

Mr. Josephson, answering your first question, perhaps Mr. Spitzer does not know the value of money and that is why he decided to toss it in the disposal container. Just remember that if the governor’s prostitute is now a celebrity is because our society put her on that position to bargain in our capitalist system. I think this situation is offensive not only for Mrs. Spitzer but for all women.

I disagree with Dr. Laura Schlesinger's comment; she should know that a character of a human being is defined at the age of six years old. Furthermore, we human beings are built from genes that are inherited from our ancestors from generation to generation. I am surprise that a “well educated person” like Dr. Laura expresses herself with such cruelty and dirtiness. Dr. Schlesinger’s comment is simply lousy and unfounded.

I understand we live in a capitalist system where only money matters for some people, now I question Dr. Laura. Are you really an adequate wife? Please explain to me what exactly means being an adequate wife because I do not quite understand. Please, this time do not insult my intelligence with a speculative comment. I think your comment is degrading women's image and intelligence.

I am a regular listener of Dr. Laura's radio program. While she does not bat 1,000 - her average is very, very good and her advice I know helps many to make changes in order to live better lives, marriages etc. As a man, I know women often turn "cold" shortly after marrying and reject their husbands. This is no excuse - but it is a reality. Like one of the above posters said - is he expected to live 40 or more years without intimacy? Again, no excuse for cheating, however wives might remind themselves to not be so rejectful of their husbands. A woman who rejects her husband breaks the vows first!!

I thought you were a straight shooter but I was wrong. When Dr. Schlessinger made that statement, she wrapped it with an exclusion of a “BAD MAN.” Your narrow focus cut short her message to provoke responses to promote your website and is indifferent from your comments of her promotion for her new book.

I hear your commentary everyday on AFN here in Germany and believe me, it is a breath of fresh air after listening to Dave Ross's commentary during the Rush Limbaugh program. Your commentary is nothing short of inspiring and dead-on with what you talk about.

I must take issue, however, on your segment about Dr. Laura Schlessinger's comments and how you related them to the Eliot Spitzer case. As a man of great intellect and knowledge whose commentary teaches conservative values I just assumed you knew more about her and where she stands on this issue. Dr. Laura often tells people where THEY can improve the problems in their marriage, regardless of who is acting out their unhappiness. She has a strong stance (and I believe she is correct) that oftentimes, if you keep your man feeling satisfied (as a man, sexually, and/or otherwise), he is less likely to leave. She will also say that if you ARE doing everything you can to make sure he is satisfied and he still cheats, you married a bad man.

The quote you read about perfectly good men straying due to not being satisfied is true. What you miss is, not every man is a perfectly good man. And, in my opinion, any man who shells out more than $80,000 to a prostitute is NOT a perfectly good man.

I will continue to listen to your inspiring commentary and visit your website. I want to thank you for your time.

Some of you crack me up. You are sitting up there on your high horses pontificating about people cheating on their spouses. You take a stance that on the surface sounds pretty good, but you're making yourself sound so perfect that it can't be true. When it is said that a person cheated on their spouse, I do look at both individuals. You all that are so critical better be giving your spouses what they need or you may find yourself on the short end of the fidelity stick. Let's look at the word fidelity. Fidelity means regular to me and when one withholds regular intimacy, that is infidelity. I do agree that it does take a certain level of self-esteem, maturity and courage to realize you need to discuss what you may deem as a lack of anything in your relationship with your spouse. If you choose not to, the ultimate responsibility for infidelity lies with the cheater. No one is saying it is all the non-cheating spouse's fault, it's just a contributing factor. For those of you that think divorce is the answer, take a look at yourself. If you are on your second or third divorce, consider this: changing spouses creates a variable and constant situation. If you keep changing the variable and you keep getting the same results, you better look at the constant. In other words, look in the mirror.

I think about cheating on my wife all the time. I don't for a variety of reasons - it would hurt someone (like both of us!), ruin my reputation, and because I know from experience that if the grass looks greener on the other side, it's probably because they water it.

"No explanation beyond moral weakness is necessary." Maybe Michael Josephson should follow his own advice when taking quotes out of context just for the sake of a column. Brittney (Mar 20) explained it best. For the rest of you: Go online and check out the whole story and what was really said before you make comments. This is what is wrong with the world - people going off half-cocked based upon partial information contained in one article. And furthermore, why not use this comment section to address the issues at hand instead of whining about injustices done to you? Everyone has their tale of woe, but it doesn't mean your experience and feelings apply to the general topic.
Some men will cheat. Some women will cheat. They cheat for various reasons -- one of which is dissatisfaction with their marriage. So Dr Laura was correct in that regard. She later expanded to offer other explanations, but that was missed by most since it is not a good sound bite. A fact not noted in this column. Shame on Michael for this display of "moral weakness!"

When my husband left me for another woman, I was absolutely devastated! I suffer from depression, but with the help of trained professionals, I have learned to understand a lot of things. At the time, I was on a medication which I now know left me feeling very little emotionally. While I loved my husband with all my heart, I was unable to show that love and didn't realize it. Only after my medication was changed did I begin to experience feelings again. But my illness shouldn't have caused him to leave me. If I had suffered from cancer, would he have left me then, too? The hurt he caused me is nothing compared to the hurt suffered by our daughter. She now suffers from migraines and is undergoing therapy because she found out about what her dad was doing before I did. As my brother told me, there was a choice to be made, and my husband made the wrong choice.

Please let me say I have read mostly all the posted comments on this one, but “Cheating” hits a home run every time.

Relationship(s) before a person can even have one (relationship) you have to go back to the core. How did it start? What brought you together? And when you think about it, some of you may smile or others may say hummmmm

Marriage is supposed to be of two people who love one another. If your spouse cheated on you, somehow between the both of you the “Core” was lost meaning the very beginning that started it all. Well now the love between the two of you is questioned continuously but can be healed.

Now you have to look deep in the relationship to see what happened. Were both of you getting too comfortable with each other, one not having time for the other, sex getting bored, same positions, no spice, caught up in the world of work, etc. If this sounds like your relationship, then fix it.
I've been married for thirty years now. I married my High School sweetheart. I never had a reason to cheat because she looks just that beautiful.

The comment that Dr. Laura made implying that the woman should be held responsible when her husband cheats is, in my opinion, another way of saying it is ok to blame others for our actions.

I believe we are 100% responsible for all the decisions we make in life, no matter what the circumstances. To blame another for our actions, or to 'hold' them responsible, is not the right thing to do for the person we are blaming or for ourselves.
(Now...go do the right thing.....sorry, I couldn't resist.)

It is interesting to see that the majority of women do not agree with Dr. Laura, while more men do agree with her. I saw a movie yesterday where the lady had to carry her own bags and she turned to the guy and said "You should be the one carrying the bags, not me". He said "What happened with all this women's lib talk?" Which she responded "Only when it is convenient for me!"

I think this is a perfect example of this. Most of the women who comment here cannot accept that maybe they do have some fault, because, well, they are perfect, while we are uncontrolable, lust-minded maniacs who only crave to have sex with as many women as possible. How can it be the women's fault? No way! Well, the fact is that it is a relationship, and you have to feed the relationship and make it grow. It takes two to do this, and when something goes wrong, it usually (not always) is because both people are doing something wrong, not just one. I know, I know, it's always the man's fault, right? Well no, it is not. Let us be morally correct and ethical and accept responsibility. Both men and women. I think this is what Dr. Laura is trying to say. Let's not just go the easy route and blame men for everything wrong, let's look deep inside and see maybe, maybe, I am to blame too. I am not saying women should be waiting hand and foot on their men. But to sit back and take this "holier than thou" attitude is completely wrong too. 20 years from now when it will be women in power being caught cheating on their husbands, will most of you women still have the same opinion? I think not!

One last thing. I think it was morally and ethically correct what Spitzer did in stepping down from his post. Too bad Bill Clinton did not do the same when he was caught cheating on Hillary with Monica! Yet on this Presidential Campaign, I hear very little criticism about this. Now did Hillary stay with Bill because she truly loves him and forgave him (they have not lived together since they left the White House), or is it because it is what Bill represents to her chances in getting back into the White House? I believe it is the later. Talk about being unethical, but since the shoe is on the other foot......barely anything is mentioned. Oops, sorry, I forgot! It's always the man's fault!

I find myself in a sexless marriage through deliberate withholding of sex. All the reasoning, analyzing, or actual studies cannot explain why a spouse cheats. My wife of 23 years has cheated on me twice. During the first few years of marriage she was a stay-at-home mom by choice while I worked three jobs to grant her her desire. Despite my commitment and love for her, she would accuse me of cheating on her while I was at work, although I could account for all my time through my paychecks. After seven years of marriage, I find out she is having an affair and leaves me and our two children. Then she files for divorce wanting to get her hands on everything we have(remember she was a stay-at-home mom & I worked three jobs). I lost my business fighting her in court, paying alimony, child support and attorney fees. At the last minute before the divorce was to become final, she withdrew. "For Better Or Worst," I took her back. I gave in to having another child, since she felt the reconciliation would be solidified if we did. A few months later, we were pregnant after I had a "reversal." We ended up with a total of five children, and after seventeen years of marriage she has an affair again while I am gone on a Military Mission. It has been a constant battle ever since the second affair. We are still together raising three of the five that are still at home. She lives as if nothing ever went wrong, but refuses to let me touch her, shows no affection, won't even kiss me or hug me, and sex is out of the question. We are going on our 24th year of marriage. Selfishness, lust, disrespect for wedding vows, and disregard for sanctity of the marriage bed is the reason a person cheats, and will probably always cheat, until they die.

I am sickened by these men who claim they are so hurt because they don't get enough sex in their marriage. For better or worse includes a lot. Be a man and look for something else to fulfill your urges that doesn't involve devolving into a dog. We are humans and can control our urges.

How if a man has no child from his own spouse (because the wife cannot bear children) and he wanted to have a child of his own? Can he be infidel for a while just to have a child?

Obviously a person who cheats is selfish and heartless to the one they are married to, regardless of the goings on in their relationship. The cheater must feel that since the marriage isn't going the way they want it to go, it's okay to do so. Did they forget the vows they spoke on their wedding day? Cheating is a horrible act, and blame should not be put on the wife/husband who is not fulfilling their every desire. Being nice to your spouse does not ensure that one will remain faithful. I agree completely with Michael Josephson 100%. Thanks for giving us perspective. Anyone, whether the husband or the wife, who chooses to be such a skank that they would risk the health of mind, heart, and body of their spouse by cheating deserves to be branded an absolute whore in public and to lose their children, home, everything!!! This is the decay of society at its worst: cheating AND THIS IS WHAT THE MORAL FIBER HAS DETERIORATED FROM.

I wish I would have caught on to this conversation much earlier. It surprises me to read so many critical judgments from women on this subject. When wives cheat, the general answer is "my husband didn't pay enough attention to me" or "I was so lonely." Present this to any therapist and they will affirm that somewhere down the line the husband was partially to blame (regardless of how selfish the woman was or how many children were in the family). If your best girlfriend cheated on her husband, would you judge her as badly as you've judged this man?